GeographyofLoss_cover-349My first experience with the heartfelt writing style of Pattie Digh was when I came across her book Life is a Verb, a book challenging the audience to live intentionally. The message sank in, and I made some changes in my life. I also took notice of the beautiful artwork submitted by readers; the book felt like “community” to me. Since then Patti has written several books, the most recent being The Geography of Loss. This time our challenge is to face the many painful experiences of life, explore the markings they’ve left on us, and fully embrace our life. Like most self-help books, this one offers exercises to help move the reader through various emotional states. This book is different though, artwork and topography lead us through this emotional territory.

Each chapter begins with a story or personal essay, followed by three prompts: a journal prompt, a map or image exercise, and a meditation. I appreciate the user-friendliness of this format; being written is such a way that you can choose which order to read the chapters and which exercises feel right for you. The journal prompts and map exercises fit together to bring you deeper into the emotional memory. Personally, I think this is brilliant. Therapists often use art exercises in their work with abused children and other trauma patients. They say that imagery is our first language–the “language of the soul”. Working with imagery bypasses our logical mind, helping to access the deeper areas.

Many of us carry fears or resentments centered on loss—an injury, betrayal, divorce, or loss of a loved one. In some situations we’ve judged ourselves; in others we have trouble forgiving. Often we carry this pain like a wall, hoping it will protect us from further injury—the wall is the injury. It is only by courageously, and fully, exploring our grief that we can be free to embrace and love our life.

If you’ve been carrying Loss or Grief, I encourage you to pick of a copy of The Geography of Loss—available at Amazon or your local bookstore. On a personal note, my artwork is on page 18!

HeartTracks by RLC

HeartTracks by RLC. Image published in The Geography of Loss by Patti Digh

Connect with Patti Digh at http://www.37days.com/home

Sometimes the fruit falls off the tree, and rolls far away from the others–the lone drummer, the enigma…the black sheep. Of course, we don’t eat drums or sheep—at least I don’t—but I digress… point is, my sisters and I are about as different as you can get. In case you’re wondering, I’m the rolling fruit.

In a state of wonder and disgust, I watched them primp for hours with make up and hairspray.

With rolling eyes they watched me pick up injured birds and “will” them back to life.

They pride themselves on holding the same job for three or four decades.

I’ve had thirteen jobs, all in completely different fields.

While they play board games, gossip, and watch sitcoms I talk to my plants, refinish furniture, and enroll in online courses. Meanwhile, my parents still swear we’re related. Apparently I’m not the only one with sister issues; Jazz and Olivia seem to be having a tough time as well. Let me introduce you to the Moon sisters.

The Moon Sisters is Therese Walsh’s new novel. To celebrate, Women On Writing is hosting an Everybody’s Talking about Sisterhood party, and a contest to win a copy of the book. I’ll get to the contest in a minute. First, here is more about Therese’s new novel.

MoonSisters“In The Moon Sisters, her second novel, Therese Walsh wanted to write about one sister’s quest to find will-o’-the-wisp light, which was her mother’s unfulfilled dream. Also called “foolish fires”, these lights are sometimes seen over wetlands and are thought to lead those who follow them to treasure. Despite the promise, they are never captured and sometimes lead to injury or even death for adventurers who follow them. The metaphor of that fire – that some dreams and goals are impossible to reach, and that hope itself may not be innately good – eventually rooted its way into deeper meaning as the Moon sisters tried to come to terms with real-world dreams and hopes, and with each other, in their strange new world.

Olivia and Jazz Moon are polar opposites: one a dreamy synesthete, able to see sounds and smell sights and the other controlling and reality driven. What will happen when they are plunged into 24/7 togetherness and control is not an option? Will they ever be able to see the world through the other’s eyes and confront the things they fear the most? Death. Suicide. The loss of faith and hope. Will they ultimately believe that life is worth living, despite the lack of promise?

The writing of The Moon Sisters was a five year journey and at times author Therese Walsh felt like it was her own “foolish fire”. But remember, some fires are worth the chase!”

Party Time!

Explore “Sisterhood” with all our blogging friends!

There’s no telling what people may decide to share! Visit Women on Writing (http://muffin.womenonwriting.com) for a list of participating blogs and start hopping.

Win a copy of The Moon Sisters!

Leave a comment here by March 15, 2014. One randomly selected semi finalist will be sent on to Women on Writing’s final contest. The winner will be announced March 18, 2014. Tip: You can enter more than once! Simply leave a comment with our other party hosts.

Games!

And while you’re waiting to win your copy of The Moon Sisters, get ready to board the train with Jazz and Olivia by getting your own train-hopper name  http://www.theresewalsh.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/Ng.jpg (mine is Clack-a-lacka Polecat), or take a personality quiz to find out which character you are most like http://www.theresewalsh.com/wp-content/uploads/2013/11/Personality-Quiz.pdf (I’d get along well with Babka). Of course, don’t forget to check out the author.

See you on the rails!

Connect with the Author

TheresaWalshCatch up with Therese at her website http://www.theresewalsh.com/

Purchase The Moon Sisters at Amazon: http://www.amazon.com/Moon-Sisters-Novel-Therese-Walsh/dp/0307461602/ref=wri

Also by Therese, The Last Will of Moira Leahy Last Will of Moira Leahy bookcover

http://www.amazon.com/Last-Will-Moira-Leahy-Novel/dp/0307461580/ref=sr_1_1?s=books&ie=UTF8&qid=1393534252&sr=1-1&

 

03/24/14 update: Thank you for joining in WOW’s book giveaway. Three winners have been chosen; one from WOW’s Rafflecopter contest, one from all the visitors to participating blogs (each blog host entered one visitor’s name), and one blog host.

The winners are
Book giveaway on The Muffin (rafflecopter): Maria M.
Book giveaway from the finalist from each participating blog: Robyn at Words by Webb
Book giveaway for a participating blogger: Vickie S. Miller at Vickie S. Miller Blog
If you didn’t win this time around don’t give up–WOW has lot’s of contest coming up! Just check out the Blog Tours and Events schedule on the right side of the page at The Muffin.

For the practical joker in all of us!

MarthebookcoverI’ve always loved April Fool’s Day and May Day because those were the two day’s of the year when it was socially acceptable to play little jokes designed to make people smile. Author Marthe Jocelyn suggests we put a bit of mirth into our ordinary days with Sneaky Art: Crafty Surprises to Hide in Plain Sight. As part of a double prize, I’m offering a copy of Sneaky Art—let me tell you more about this fun and original book!

Sneaky Art projects are small, artistic creations intended to bring a smile to someone’s day. In her book Jocelyn offers twenty-four sneaky art projects to get us started. Most can be created with items already at home. A few of my favorites are:

  • Cork Critters—Small animals or people created with corks and scraps of fabric and paper. Leave them on the shelf in a washroom, by the sugar at the coffee shop, on a friend’s desk.
  • Stick Pixies—Characters taped to the top of straws or stir-sticks making them easy to tuck into pencil cups, books, or condiment dispensers.
  • Clip-On Flock—Paper birds glued onto clothespins. The book shows the birds clipped onto shopping carts; what a fun way to brighten up the next shopper’s experience!

Each craft in Jocelyn’s book includes a list of materials, complete instructions, a picture of the final result, and suggestions on where to leave your sneaky art.

The premise of Sneaky Art is to leave little works of art in public places and as such there are some basic guidelines to follow. Jocelyn offers clear instructions of what Sneaky Art is not (“Sneaky Art is not mean, defacing, ugly, hurtful, messy, or permanent. Sneaky Art is not graffiti or marking up someone’s property”) and what Sneaky Art is (“Sneaky art is funny clever, thoughtful, subversive, playful, and surprising”). She even suggests going back to the scene of our “sneak” and retrieving our art if it is still there.

To this I add my own suggestion that any art placed outdoors be created with good stewardship in mind. We don’t want to create litter, and we don’t want to endanger any wild life. So, any paints should be non-toxic. Do not use thin threads or fishing line as they can wrap around the feet of birds and small animals causing injury. Do not use colored beads or fake berries as birds may ingest them and get sick (or worse).

Sneaky Art: Crafty Surprises to Hide in Plain Sight is intended for ages 8-12 but appeals to sneaky artists of all ages. The projects are inexpensive and easily adaptable for large groups, making it a good resource for teachers, but the true beauty of the book lays in the underlying lessons in conceptualization and material re-purposing. Caution: this book may cause regular ransacking of your recycle bin!

Would you like to win a copy of Sneaky Art? Details on how to win today’s special double giveaway are posted below.

About the Book

Sneaky Art: Crafty Surprises to Hide in Plain Sight by Marthe Jocelyn

Synopsis:

For young artists, tricksters, and crafters, here is a hip, friendly how-to manual for creating removable and shareable art projects from easily found materials. The sneaky part is in the installation! Each work of art is custom-created for display in public places — a tiny cork-bottomed boat in a public fountain, a plate of tiny paper cupcakes on your teacher’s desk, a penny left on the ground for a stranger, a funny message left on your mother’s bathroom mirror, and more. This utterly unique guide — part craft book, part art-philosophy — offers a stylish and sweet “made-you-look-twice” spirit of fun meant to put a smile on the faces of strangers and loved ones alike.

Connect with the author:

Marthe Jocelyn’s websites:

http://www.marthejocelyn.com/index.htm

http://sneakyart.com

Twitter:

@scissorhouse

#SneakyArt

Double Giveaway MarthebookcoverRainy Day Artpack

As part of the Sneaky Art virtual book tour through Women On Writing, I am offering a double-prize package consisting of my hardcover, review copy of Sneaky Art and a Rainy Day Art Pack by Marthe Jocelyn.

The Rainy Day Art Pack comes with a body template and a selection of scraps for crafting (decorative paper, pompoms, feathers, yarn, buttons, etc…) Just add glue and scissors! More fun than paper dolls (remember them?) Where will this little character end up? He/she might become part of a collage…or even take part in a Sneaky Art caper!

To Enter The Giveaway:

Leave a Comment: Let us know why this book appeals to you OR share your idea of a good place to leave a sneaky art project. Make sure your email address is either in your profile or included in your comment so I can get in touch with you!

For additional Entries:

Tweet about this giveaway. Come back and leave the url to your tweet. Be sure to use the hashtag #SneakyArt in your tweet! (Each tweet gains an additional entry!)

Follow @scissorhouse on Twitter

Follow @RCchrps (that’s me) on Twitter

Visit this past Friday’s post at Museiddity.com for more chances to win this Double Giveaway!

Contest runs December 13, 2013 through December 21, 2013. One random winner will be chosen from all entries gathered on Museiddity and A Ponderance of Things. One winner will win the prize package consisting of one hardcover copy of the book, Sneaky Art, and one Rainy Day Art Pack. Items to be mailed separately. Winner to be notified by email and the name posted in a blog update.

Good Luck!

Update: Congratulations to Pillows-a-la-mode for winning our Sneaky Art double giveaway. She has been contacted via email.

Seconds Before SunriseSeconds Before Sunrise, the second book of the Timely Death Trilogy, releases March 22nd, 2014. The first book of the series, Minutes Before Sunset (AEC Stellar Publishing, Inc. June 14, 2013) received rave reviews and loyal fans.

The premise of this YA trilogy is a battle between Dark and Light, not an uncommon topic in these days of young adult paranormal romance hype. This series sets itself apart by questioning what good and evil truly are. With this twist, author Shannon A. Thompson found a way to grab an audience at the young age of 22yr.

Today’s cover-reveal party celebrates the release of book two in the Timely Death Trilogy with a trivia hunt blog hop. Join the hunt by following the blogs listed at Shannon Thompson’s website. Each host will feature a fact pertaining to the trilogy.

Fact #21: The original drafts of the trilogy were about 135,000 words. The finalized versions are about 80,000.

Seconds Before Sunrise–Synopsis: 

Two nightmares. One memory.

“Chaos within destiny. It was the definition of our love.”

Eric has weeks before his final battle when he’s in an accident. Forced to face his human side, he knows he can’t survive if he fights alone. But he doesn’t want to surrender, even if he becomes the sacrifice for war.

Jessica’s memory isn’t the only thing she’s lost. Her desire to find her parents is gone and so is her confidence. But when fate leaves nightmares behind, she decides to find the boy she sees in them, even if it risks her sanity.

Connect with the author:

Website: http://shannonathompson.com/

Amazon Author Page: http://www.amazon.com/Shannon-A.-Thompson/e/B00AXANG76/ref=ntt_dp_epwbk_0

Goodreads: https://www.goodreads.com/author/show/6880615.Shannon_A_Thompson

I’m sure that at least once you’ve caught yourself saying, “It’s going to be one of those days.” You know…the kind of day when the water gets turned off, people cut you off, and none of the grocery stores have the ingredient you need. The kind of day when your order finally arrives in the mail and is wrong, which means you have to pay to ship it back. The kind of day when you spill a can of peas and they all go rolling across the floor, disappearing under the refrigerator. Yes, this was actually my day today. But, instead of bracing myself for the next possible catastrophe, I decided to try something different. I decided to see each experience as separate and unattached to the rest of the day. And you know what? It wasn’t really a bad day at all!

On the positive side, fellow grocery shoppers were in relatively good moods. A friend shared her entire diet plan via email and offered encouragement through the holiday feasting. The post office employee taped up my package for me so I could mail the item back in the same envelope (and save three dollars). And the water was turned back on a full four hours before I expected. Best of all, I didn’t spend the day being a grump!

Stuff happens; that’s life. The problem begins when we get attached to all the let-downs. All we can expect of ourselves is to deal the best we can with whatever comes up…then let it go. We don’t have to wait for tomorrow’s sun to rise before we can feel better, or before our luck shifts. We can decide that each day is merely a series of moments offering many fresh starts.

…just something to keep in mind this Thursday when you spill the gravy down your new, white blouse.

 

Please excuse the lack of editing—it’s just been… well, you know :)

Gobble Gobble Gourdy 1For instructions on making Gobble-Gobble Gourdy go to Museiddity.com.

Evening Romp by RLC 2009

Evening Romp by RLC 2009

We all know that occasional nightmares are part of childhood but what can we do when the nightmares happen every night?

A frustrated mother recently posted her plea on a parenting website. Her son has recurring nightmares of malevolent extraterrestrials; the dreams happen every night. The family has stopped watching alien movies and she has explained to her son that those stories aren’t real, but the dreams persist. I don’t remember where I came across this posting, but as someone who has suffered from nightmares well into adulthood I’d like to take a moment to address the subject.

To work with childhood nightmares we need to look at three things: the way a child’s brain works, what nightmares are, and how to promote a good night’s rest (which is something even adults can embrace).

Did you know that your child is operating in a different wave pattern than you are? It’s true! Children under 12 spend most of their waking time in Theta state, whereas adults primarily stay in Beta. Why are children in Theta? This is their learning time. Children are soaking up information in order to learn how to survive. Their minds don’t know the difference between story and fact; it’s all real and everything is possible. This is important to note because it tells us two things. One, those violent movies are being registered in the subconscious as necessary information. Two, even though the child can logically agree that the stories are not real, their subconscious is working with the information as though the events truly happened.

I remember watching the movie Psycho when I was still pretty young; that infamous shower scene really got to me! It was quite a while, a few years in fact, before I could take a shower without thinking about someone whipping open the shower curtain. Sometime I even left the curtain partway open so I could keep an eye on the room. What happened was that my mind created a neural pathway associating being in the shower with danger. It takes time to re-route or override those pathways. They are created so that we “don’t keep stepping in the same hole” so to speak.

So, what does all of this have to do with nightmares? At night, a child’s mind is trying to sort and balance all the information recorded and absorbed that day. All of those stimuli have triggered specific emotional centers as well, and as the mind does its sorting these emotional centers are stimulated and strange dreams can result. A movie or story may have originally traumatized this child, creating a fear response “trigger.” Other stressful input such as news reports, crime dramas, or even family arguments can stimulate this same trigger. Even though the movies have stopped, the fear response is still active.

The way to begin reducing the nightmares is to not only avoid violent or stressful situations but also incorporate safe, relaxing experiences. Adults can benefit from this as well.

Allow for some wind-down time before going to bed, at least an hour but preferably two. Use this time to:

  • Watch nature shows
  • Take a warm bath
  • Listen to relaxing music—nature sounds, lullabies, Native American flute, piano solos
  • Read heart warming or funny stories
  • Cuddle

Have your discussions about the day, such as what happened at school, earlier in the evening, not during wind-down time. This time is for letting go of the day and nurturing a light mood and good feelings. Children sleep better when they feel safe, loved, and have happy pictures in their heads. Parents may find themselves sleeping better too!

 

Additional steps for working through recurring nightmares:

Offer your child the gift of self empowerment. Give them tools to help them through the fear and teach them to assert themselves in scary situations:

Give the child a special flashlight to take to bed or one of those “Dream Lites” animals that casts stars on the ceiling.

Create a special “Happy Dreams” song to sing together each night or an “It’s Only a Bad Dream” song for the child to sing to himself after waking from a nightmare.

During the daytime, sit quietly and let your child describe the dreams in detail. Ask questions about how the child feels during different parts of the dream and how the dream might play out differently for a better outcome. Encourage the child to re-write the script of the dream and roll-play this new scenario with him, featuring the child as the new hero of the story.

Have the child write a story or draw pictures of rising up against the monster or making the monster actually turn out to be a mouse in a costume (or some other funny thing).

One of the greatest lessons a child can learn is the difference between acting in a dangerous situation and reacting to fear.

Do you or your child suffer from nightmares? Do you have any stories to tell or tips to share?

I first met Mohana while working with Women On Writing, At the time, she had just published her novel, Love Comes Later. Mohana is now celebrating the release of her new novel, An Unlikely Goddess, which examines how religion and culture define women. Please enjoy the video trailer and an excerpt from An Unlikely Goddess. (Available at Amazon)

 

An Unlikely Goddess An Unlikely Goddess—Synopsis (from Amazon)

Winner of the SheWrites New Novelist competition 2011

Sita is the firstborn, but since she is a female child, her birth makes life difficult for her mother who is expected to produce a son. From the start, Sita finds herself in a culture hostile to her, but her irrepressible personality won’t be subdued. Born in India, she immigrants as a toddler to the U.S. with her parents after the birth of her much anticipated younger brother.

Sita shifts between the vastly different worlds of her WASP dominated school and her father’s insular traditional home. Her journey takes us beneath tales of successful middle class Indians who immigrated to the U.S. in the 1980s.

The gap between positive stereotypes of South Asian immigrants and the reality of Sita’s family, who are struggling to stay above the poverty line is a relatively new theme for Indian literature in English.

Sita’s struggles to be American and yet herself, take us deeper into understanding the dilemmas of first generation children, and how religion and culture define women.

 

 

An Unlikely Goddess–Excerpt

By Mohanalakshmi Rajakumar

Winner of the SheWrites New Novelist Award, 2011

The Hindu goddess, Sita, is said to have been born from the Earth.

King Janaka discovers the beautiful infant and in her beauty, believes in her divinity. He raises her as his own daughter……

Prologue

Unlike her namesake, Sita’s first mistake was being born.

A girl, her mother thought, eyes dark in abject terror. What if he leaves me? She swallowed, increasing the dryness in her post-delivery mouth, the stiches across her abdomen itching. No water. Only ice chips until her bowels passed the tests. Mythili pressed back against the pillows. She closed her eyes, pushing her fingers into the sockets until the darkness was punctuated by bone-white stars. She wished she could as easily tune out the gurgles of the baby in the bassinet beside her.

Yet, even premature and unwanted, Sita was obliviously happy to enter the world, beaming her infant smile at anyone or anything she saw: the nurse, her aunt, her mother’s back, the noxiously-pink cement walls of the Madras hospital in which she found herself. Several pounds underweight, she was otherwise fine—a petite, brown-skinned baby with tufts of black hair crowning a smooth scalp. How could she be expected to know that from her first breath she was, and always would be, a living reminder of her mother’s failure to produce a first-born male heir?

Though swaddled and placed in the bassinet immediately after delivery, her eyes were alive with motion. She blinked up at the faces of passersby, but they were admittedly few, so instead, she followed the blinking lights, the creeping shadows and the occasional appearance of a nurse. Everything about the world kept her busy with delight until sleep washed over her little body

“Look at that smile,” the young nurse said, cradling Sita against her flat bosom.

“Aamam,” Priya, the childless aunt, agreed, rubbing a forefinger across the baby’s somewhat wrinkly face.

Instead of replying, Mythili, Sita’s mother, pulled a see-through blue sheet up to her chin and turned her face away.

About the Author

Mo_new_profile_photoMohanalakshmi Rajakumar is a South Asian American who has lived in Qatar since 2005. In addition to being featured in several magazines, Mohana has published seven e-books including a mom-ior for first time mothers, Mommy But Still Me; a novel about women’s friendships, Saving Peace; and a novel set in Qatar which explores if this current generation believes that Love Comes Later.

Mohana was a winner of the SheWrites We Love New Novelists competition. She writes because words can help us understand ourselves and others. Read more about her on her website, www.mohanalakshmi.com.

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